It was somewhere in the year 2000 I heard that there is a day specific to celebrate friendship 😊 . My childhood friends who stayed in the same road, tied a hand made band and wished me happy friendship day. In return I was so bad at art and craft I turned to my grandfather’s sister who with her intricate wolleen weaves produced few bands to me. I also did the custom. My friends told me the friendship is as strong as the thread on the hand, the day it breaks we are in trouble. It also stood as the testimony of how many friends we had. Every year there was a count, few added, few subtracted and few well vanished. The band depended on how special the friend was, used all my creativity(very less) to make that special band to the friend 😊. While cleaning my room today I found one such band which had friends forever written on it. Thankfully that friend is still my best friend 😊 so the deal is sealed. I thought I would write on the friendship I experienced. I had a very happy childhood, so friends were plenty and it was fun to hang around. I hate being alone so friends are a major part of my life.
I was traveling back from Barcelona after my masters. The flight and the layover was long. Even before I did my masters I was under a confusion of what to do. Every friend I had was either getting married or flying for Masters. I had no clue what to do,also I had my urinary tract infection relapsing 3 times and I visited hospitals much more than I frequented home. That was the most difficult phase of my life. That’s where the true test of friendship came to me. Actual friends came home without asking whether they could come , gave me nice prep talk, sometimes scolding me for being sad. I cannot thank them enough. Well well that’s not the end. I treat friendship as the most important entity in life sometimes even beyond relationship. I have seen the trait of people ditching their friends as soon as they get married and move to a different country. I cannot take that sudden change 😁.
When I was in Barcelona, I realized the value of true friends. You cannot share everything with your parents, I could not tell them how crazy my landlady was when in the middle of night she wanted us to vacate the house because her boyfriend wanted us to do so or she hid her own food and blamed on all tenants tat it was stolen. Such things could be shared only to friends. I am glad I had people to talk to at 2 A M or whatever time zone. Growing up you realize it’s not the physical presence of friends all the time that matters but what they did when you needed them. I am sure I have been 2 A M friends to many so I understand how it works.
Friendship between opposite gender is most complicated in India. Here we don’t express our love openly but hatred at its peak. We take pride in saying it loud we hate someone but even if we love our friend we don’t say it. Make things more complicated. I have seen that people don’t realize friendship is the basis of such relationship,also we grew up watching bullshit like boy and girl can never be friends 😁.
Barcelona taught who my real friends are. Surprisingly I have friends I met through Facebook who I have never met but worked for a common cause of Kannada content . We create Kannada content, read poems together and discuss ideas as well. That’s a strange thing that could happen to me but it’s very interesting friendship I garnered.
Growing up I have realized it’s important to let go of people who don’t want to be part of your life. It’s a very matured process of not fighting over things which are not yours. I am glad I let go many and found a lot more.
There was not a day where I have felt lonely and dealt with the word ‘no one to look upto’. My father says that’s the situation you create on your own with your ego, if you are at least honest and respectful with just one person in your life that’s where you are never lonely. When you put your ego and start speaking rubbish because of the mood, everything is spoilt. What a sound advise I say 😊
So life is beautiful with friends, I have had such beautiful moments and continue to have so for the rest of my life. There is absolutely one I can be myself with, school buddies who have been friends from age of 7, childhood buddies who I don’t know when I became friends, friends of my age , younger to me, older than me. These friends have been the most respectful and loving.
So my dearest buddies who stood by me and I stood by them, happy friendship day though friendship bands and the number have lost relevance but those are always in my heart ❤ because ಕಾಲ,ದೇಶ ಮೀರಿದ ಭಾವ.ಸ್ನೇಹ ಅತಿ ಮಧುರ
Love, peace and happiness always.